“How few there are who have courage enough to own their faults, or resolution enough to mend them” – Benjamin Franklin

A Happy New Year to you all and even on only the fourth day of 2017 I am, like many people probably, finding my New Years resolutions difficult to keep. There’s a good chance that by the end of January they will be largely be forgotten about.

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24384461 – popular new year resolutions – colorful sticky notes on a cork board

Changing behaviours is difficult. How many times in the past, New Year or otherwise, have we promised ourselves we will: quit smoking; lose weight; exercise more; avoid alcohol; be more organised and a whole host of other variations? Understanding the desire and sometimes need is simple putting it into practice is hard work.

Is there a different way?

Perhaps we might consider asking ourselves ‘Daily Questions’ and make them active to focus on effort rather than results. So for example I could ask myself “Did I do my best today to ….. exercise; be more organised; become a better listener or whatever and give each category a score out of 10. A record could be kept daily on a simple spreadsheet. This then could be shared with a close friend or family member on a daily or weekly basis.

The advantage of ‘Daily Active Questions’ is that they focus on our level of trying not a seemingly distant goal or results. Simply sharing our scores on a regular basis with another person will make us feel good when we have scored well. Equally it will cause us to pause and think whether something with consistently low scores is that important to us and should it be a goal at all?

It works … or at least it did for me.

A few years ago I had a health scare which caused me to look at my lifestyle more closely. The imagined immortality of youth was long since gone but I was painfully reminded of mortality. I now walk an average of 80-90,000 steps a week; meditate twice on a daily basis and visit the gym 5 times a week. All of which is as a result of a methodology similar to that outlined above.

If you would like to talk more about this call me on 07525 857389 or email on ricbandrews@gmail.com


Who am I? A chap living in Nottingham, United Kingdom who perhaps has a much higher level of enthusiasm than ability leading to an interest in many things but mastery of none. A father of three no longer dependent children, or so they tell me, and husband to a one-time nurse who now works with me (or rather I work for). I attempt to take photographs and occasionally fluke half decent shots though thank goodness I no longer have to buy film. I endeavour to practice karate but with advancing years spend more time instructing them participating but actively participate in the more gentle tai chi. Professionally I have spent the last twenty years in recruitment – not always the most highly regarded ‘industry’. For my part I take great pleasure in helping companies to find the right people and a lot of satisfaction out of seeing them thrive and succeed. More recently I have spent a lot of time helping people who have, or fear they may, lose their jobs. For many putting a CV together is so difficult and then finding opportuniteis can be a major challenge. Interviews can be a different problem altogether but with a little help most people can perform a lot better than they otherwise would.

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